Around the middle of last year, there was a day when I felt like trying yoga again, and this was partly due to the fact that I felt lighter. What also gave me a boost was that I had just spent the afternoon with a friend.
I had thought about doing this before, but I hadn’t taken the next step; this time it was different. I ended up looking online for somewhere that was close by and when I did this, I just happened to come across a technique for healing trauma.
I wanted To Know More!
I was curious about it what is was all about; I even sent an email to the website asking for more details. It turned out that there were yoga classes at the same place, so I thought I might be able to find out more about it when I went for the yoga session.
To my surprise, the same woman who taught yoga also taught the technique for healing trauma. I asked her about what it was all about and she had a lot of positive things to say about it, and she said that the next class would be in a few days time if I wanted to experience it.
Raring To Go
I would have tried the technique there and then; I didn’t need time to think about it and I didn’t need convincing either. After a few days had passed, I went back to try it out and to see if it was any good.
In the beginning, we did a number of different stretches and then we went into a position where the trauma could be released. When this started to happen, I ended up being filled with joy and gratitude.
Before I tried this technique, I was aware that there was a lot of stick energy in my body, and I had even released some of this when I tried somatic experiencing a little while before. When I tried this technique, I didn’t think it was overly effective; it seemed a bit slow and weak.
However, when I experienced this technique for the first time, it was far more powerful. I was filled with joy because I was finally letting go of trauma and I felt grateful because I had been trying to do this for many, many years.
I had used techniques that had healed emotional pain, but what I hadn’t come across was anything that would allow me to let go of the fear, anxiety and terror that I was carrying and to feel safe. At the same time, I would be more accurate for me to say that I had come across different methods and techniques that allowed me to settle down, but the results didn’t last.
I learned this technique at a place that was very near to a big castle and, during my first session, I had this vision where I was on a horse and I ended up being given a sword. It was as though I was being rearmed, it was a very powerful experience.
What’s it called?
This technique is called Total Release Experience®, or TRE for short. Not only does this technique actually heal trauma, but it doesn’t cost an arm and a leg to learn it and someone can use it whenever they need to.
When it comes to healing trauma, normal therapy or counselling rarely work. In addition to this, it often costs a fortune and someone can end up being dependent on another person to regulate how they feel.
As a result of this, someone can have their existing problems and then they can end up with a load more by taking the traditional route. They can feel the same, if not worse, and they can have even less money that they had to begin with.
So, if you would like to find out more about Total Release Experience®, please go to - https://treuk.com/.
Over the years, I have had many conversations with my mother about what her childhood was like. This wasn’t simply because I wanted to know what this time in her life was like; it was because I wanted to find out why she behaved the way she did.
As the years went by she settled down and was no longer as abusive, but what remained was a general lack of empathy, amongst other things. Being this way was undoubtedly what made it easier for her to behave in a destructive manner and to be abusive when I was growing up.
A Number of Answers
When I asked her about her childhood, I would generally be told that this was a time when everything was fine. On the rare occasions when she didn’t say this, she spoke about the moments that were not fine and what annoyed her when she was growing up.
Yet, if I mentioned this later on, it would be as though I was just making it all up. It became clear that there was what actually happened and then there was what she believed had happened.
A Defence Mechanism
So, while being in denial stopped her from having to face up to what took place, it also caused her to be out of touch with reality. There was the effect that her childhood had on her, the effect that this had on how she treated her own children and the impact it had on her own mental, emotional and physical health.
Out of the need to avoid pain, the mind will cause someone to disconnect from reality and to create a false reality. In this reality, they can see life however they want to see it and believe whatever they want about the past; it won’t matter if this has absolutely nothing to do with what is actually going on or what really took place in the past.
A Matter of Survival
All the defences that my mother created had allowed her to keep her pain and trauma at bay, but it meant that she couldn’t face reality. It was far easier for her to stay detached from reality than to face up to what had really been going on.
There is a strong chance that these defences were put in place when she was very young. Through being brought up in a dysfunctional environment, this was probably the only thing that she could do to handle the trauma.
An Interesting Conversation
What gave me a clear insight into why mother was so controlling and saw my family and I as someone to be used, was a conversation I had with her a little while ago. She was going through old photos and a picture of her grandmother, her mother’s mother, was found.
In this picture she didn’t come across as particularly pleasant, her hands were on her hips and she looked very uptight. My mother said that she was “a bitch” and, when I asked her why she said this, she said that she treated her as well as others like a slave.
At this time I was thinking about her my mother behaved in the same way, but I didn’t bother bringing this up. I had spoken about this many, many times before and my mother would deny it.
Anyway, this is a clear example of how abuse is often passed from one generation to another. It is then as though each generation lacked consciousness, and this is why they treated others in the same way that they themselves were treated.
A Big Cover Up
I think that what plays a part here is when someone experiences abuse and doesn’t work through what happened, this can cause them to treat other people in the same way that they were treated.
Disconnecting from their pain will make it easier for them to avoid how they feel and this can allow them to stay loyal to their caregiver/s. Their need to be loyal can be so strong that it stops them from being able to acknowledge what took place when they were younger.
I think that this emphasises how important it is for someone to reach out for support if they were abused. This will give them the chance to process their own pain as opposed to abusing others.
However, this is only going to take place if they have the level of awareness required to do so. Sadly, this is something that doesn’t always take place and this causes them to repeat the cycle of abuse.
Over a year ago, I was speaking to a friend called Wain, and we were talking about what we were working on at that stage in our life. I think he was working on a few videos and I could have been putting a book together.
It was during this time that he went a little bit deeper and was curious to know how I perceived myself. So, when I said that I would soon be releasing the book, he wasn’t happy to just give me positive feedback and then to move on; he wanted to see what was going on for me.
A Big Difference
I was surprised by this as I was used to people giving me positive feedback when I spoke about something like this. But Wain, on the other hand, is not someone who has the tendency to say things that a lot of other people say.
After he said, “how do you see yourself?” I thought about what he said and it became clear that I didn’t have an empowering view of myself. Through being so focused on doing things, it stopped me from being aware of where I was coming from.
An Important Question
In other words, I was so focused on what I wanted to achieve that it caused me to be unaware of why I wanted to achieve it. Ultimately, looking into how I saw myself was a way to get in touch with my self-image.
With this in mind, it became clear that I had to be coming from the right place and that it wasn’t enough to simply do things. In this context, the quality of the work that I produced was only part of it; the other part was seeing myself as someone who produced quality work.
A Big Effect
How I saw myself would have an impact on how I presented my work, what I did with it and even the energy that was behind it. Therefore, if this part of the equation was not right, I would only be able to get so far.
Part of me would be on board, but another part of me wouldn’t be going in the same direction. What I came to see was that every part of me wasn’t going in the same direction; I was sabotaging myself.
Shinning the Light
After being asked this question by Wain, I could have ended up getting defensive. The trouble is that if this had indeed taken place, it would have stopped me from being able to reflect on what he asked me.
As a result of this, my mind would have been closed and it wouldn’t have been possible for me to grow. I knew that he was coming from the right place and I was open-minded, so fortunately this didn’t happen.
This is just one the many powerful questions that Wain has asked me over the years; his mind is like a guided missile. The difference is that he is not interested in destroying buildings; he is interested in destroying false beliefs and outlooks.
If you would like to find out more about Wain, and the services that he offers, please go to - https://www.timetorelax.space/
I remember reading about my star sign in different papers when I was growing up and thinking how general it was. So, while I would read up on my sign from time to time, I wouldn’t take much notice of what I read.
After a while, I soon turned my back on it altogether and saw it as a bit of a joke. This was before I was on the path, and had started reading books on self-development and working through my own pain.
The Birth Chart
I couldn’t accept that my star sign was able to provide an adequate description of who I was or how I would live my life. However, in 2011 I came to see that there was far more to astrology that I had ever realised.
A friend asked me for a few details so he could do my birth chart and, the details he wanted were: my date of birth, time of birth, and place of birth. I soon came to see that this was my full astrological portrait and that my star sign was just one part.
A lot of Information
What I had in front of me was nothing like what I had read about in a paper; it was the difference between a plate of food and a table full of different dishes. I came to see that I had four main signs.
It didn’t stop there though, as there were all the planets and aspects that added even more depth. My mind was like a child in a toy shop; I couldn’t contain myself and I warned to look through everything.
The Big Four
I learnt that my star sign related to how people saw me when they got to know me; my ascendant/rising sign was how people saw me when they met me first the first time; my noon sign was my emotional style and how I responded to things, and my midheaven sign related to my life path. I ended up putting each of these signs into a search engine and going over page and pages of information.
I wanted to find out as much as I could and to see how each sign affected me and the impact it had on the other signs. In the months and years that followed, I spent a lot of time and energy going through my birth chart.
A Powerful Tool
Doing this helped me to learn a lot about myself - I came to see that a lot of what I admired about others was waiting to be developed within me. Furthermore, there was also what I learnt about others.
And although I have spent a lot of time looking through my chart over the years, even to this day I am still learning more. If I had had a closed mind and stood by the view that I had of astrology all those years ago, I would have missed out on a lot of powerful information.
I believe that it is important to have an open mind and to at least give something a try. This doesn’t mean that I have accepted everything I have read and gone along with something just because it paints me in a positive light – far from it.
Also, thinking critically and questioning things will help to minimise the chances of being deceived and developing a big ego in the process. If you would like to look through your own birth chart, this can be done through typing ‘birth chart’ into a search engine.
For a number of months, I have thought about what was said during an English lesson while I was at school. A number of years have passed since that moment, but I can hear it as clear now as I did back then.
The main reason why I have thought about this moment in my life is due to what has been taking place on social media, at universities, and in the real world. Nowadays, it is often seen as perfectly acceptable for someone to label another person in some way, without providing any evidence.
This can mean that someone will call another person stupid or they could go even further, and say that they are racist, homophobic, xenophobic or islamophobic, for instance. When something like this takes palace, it will be as though they haven’t taken the time to engage their brain.
If anything, what they have said will be more like a reaction, as opposed to something they have consciously thought about. Their response is then going to be very similar to how a reptile can just lash out.
When a reptile behaves in this way it is excusable because they haven’t got the ability to think. Yet, when a human being behaves in this manner, it is not because this is the only thing that they can do.
The trouble is that even though someone like this is not going to be engaging their brain, it doesn’t mean that they will feel bad afterwards; in fact, they can end up feeling good about themselves. Additionally, they can receive positive feedback from other people.
Still, as surprising as it can be to see this kind of behaviour online or in the real world, it is even more surprising to see this at a university. This used to be somewhere where people would go to learn.
Therefore, if someone doesn’t get taught how to engage their brain here; where are they going to learn how to do this? A university like this is then not going to allow someone to evolve; they are going to encourage them to devolve.
When I first came across what was going on at certain universities I couldn’t believe my eyes. I had always believed that this was somewhere were people went to expand their mind and that you had to be really intelligent to go there.
But after seeing this behaviour, it made me wonder what had happened to these places. It was as though they no longer existed to educate people and that their purpose was to indoctrinate them instead.
Back In Time
So, coming back to what was said during an English lesson at school, the teacher, Mr Wiseman, asked us to share our views on what we had just watched. I think it was Educating Rita or The Breakfast Club, or maybe another film that I would almost fall asleep to.
One pupil put their hand up and said that it was ‘shit’ or something similar, and the teacher said that that was not an acceptable answer. He asked them to go into why they thought it wasn’t good, to explain how they came to that conclusion.
The Missing Part
The teacher was emphasising how important it was for us to engage our brain and not to just blurt out whatever came to mind. At this time, I knew that it wasn’t right to say something was ‘shit’, but I didn’t know much about what the teacher was trying to teach us.
Nevertheless, behaving in a civilised manner was something that I was completely on board with. What was clear is that it took a lot more effort to come up with the reasons why something wasn’t good.
I believe that one of the main things that the educating system should do is to teach people how to think. If they don’t do this, they are simply teaching people what to think, and this is all about control.
The purpose of education is surely to empower people and to give them the tools that they need to function at their best. Ultimately, using words as a way to try to silence others is easy; it is not as though someone needs to go to university to learn how to do this.
A few weeks ago, I was having a conversation with a friend of mine called Wain, and this was a deep conversation. However, this was a conversation that was far deeper than usual and I ended up thinking about what we spoke about.
I won’t go too far into what we spoke about as I sure that he will want to talk about this when the time is right, but I will touch upon the general theme. This was a time when he spoke about the relationship that we have with everything.
A Few Things
He asked me what my relationship was like with my left hand and how I felt about this part of my body. After this, he went onto to say about the relationship that we have with the sun and the wind.
What this was all about was how everything is connected and that nothing is truly inanimate. By thinking about all this, it emphasised how powerful our thoughts and feelings were, along with our beliefs.
I ended up talking about the relationship what we have with nature and how this can be a source of love and nurturance. I said these are things that we often look towards other people to provide and one person in particular.
Over the years, I have gone for a number runs and walks through woods and the country side, so I know how good it can be to be in nature. When I have gone for a run, I haven’t really been able to take it all in, but this hasn’t been the case when I have been for a walk.
Embracing the Moment
The main difference is that when I go for a run, I have music in my ears and I’m in doing mode. Yet, when I go for a walk, my mind is not being stimulated by music and I can just be.
When I have finished my walk and gone back home, I usually feel as though I have received something. I feel calmer, more connected to myself and the world around me, and grateful for what I have experienced.
A Powerful Experience
Since I have had these kinds of conversations with Wain, been reading a book called ‘E-Squared’, and felt more at peace within myself, among other things, I have experienced an even deeper connection to nature. What brought this to my attention was how I felt when I walked past a wooded area the other day.
As soon as I got close by, it was as though I had just come into contact with an old friend who I felt completely at ease with and who I loved dearly. I felt really good and it was as though I had a deep connection with the tress.
Shortly after this, I went out when it had been snowing, and this was an incredible experience. Even though it was cold, what instantly stood out was how peaceful it was.
I walked through the country lanes and then I walked through the woods; it was a very nurturing experience. Part of me feels sad that it’s over and wants to go through the whole experience all over again, and this shows that my mind formed an attachment to this moment.
There is the chance that a number people would think I’m crazy after reading this and wonder how something like this can take place. After all, it is only possible to have these kinds of experience with another human being, right!?
I would say that this comes back to how disconnected so many people are in the world. If someone lives in their head and is out of touch with their body, it is going to stop them from being able to deeply connect to ‘mother’ earth; the earth, like their body, can be seen as just another thing that needs to be controlled.
And if you would like to find out more about Wain, and the services that he offers, please go to - https://www.timetorelax.space/